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How to Recover when you Screw Up

How to Recover when you Screw Up

How to Recover when you Screw Up

dear lucretia, how to recover when you screw up

Dear Lucretia,

This week I made a mistake at work and got into a bit of trouble because of it. Now I’m worried that my colleagues don’t like me and talk badly about me behind my back. I’m starting to get anxiety attacks when going to work in the mornings, partly because I’m afraid to make mistakes again. What can I do to feel more comfortable?

Cassie, 22 years old

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Dear Cassie, 
What if I told you that making mistakes is a good thing? When we try something and it doesn’t work, we expand and this is positive. I am sure your colleagues have made many mistakes during their lives and, if they believe they are perfect, the Universe will soon remind them of their innate humanness.

Humans who try to be perfect all the time are doomed to fail. It is much better to accept that sometimes you will stuff up and that’s okay. The most important thing is you learn from it and keep going.

If you need more information or resources to help improve your performance, then don’t be afraid to ask. A good supervisor loves it when an employee owns their mistakes and is keen to get it right next time.

Lastly, always remember that most people spend most of their time thinking about themselves and their own challenges. It’s quite possible that your colleagues are not thinking about you at all. But, if they are, it doesn’t matter because what you think about yourself is the most important thing.

Lots of love,

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Lucretia’s guidance should be regarded as personal opinion only and does not constitute qualified, professional advice regarding psychological situations. If you require this type of advice, please seek the services of a professional in that field.
Grade 12 is Stressing Me Out!

Grade 12 is Stressing Me Out!

Grade 12 is Stressing Me Out!

DearLucretia.com Grade 12 Stress

Dear Lucretia,

I’ve been struggling a lot with stress lately – mostly with school and what to do when I finish (I’m currently in grade 12). It has felt overwhelming. How do I cope with this? 

I’ve also been struggling with trying to stay calm while socialising. I get all nervous and start to shake and feel unwell. Is there any way I can stop this from happening? 

Anna, 17 years old

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Dear Anna,

Grade 12 can be tough and this year, Covid-19 has made it even more difficult. You are not alone in feeling overwhelmed.

I’m wondering, how do you let off steam? What do you do for fun? One of the best ways to manage stress is to do the things we enjoy. And yes, you might say, “Oh Lucretia, I don’t have time to do that”. But, even 30 minutes doing something that feels relaxing and gets you out of your head will help you cope.

Start noticing when you are over-thinking and obsessing about something (e.g. assignments, the future, exams), then distract yourself – go for a run around the house or your backyard, or do a hobby that you love. When you do this, it will interrupt your mind and get it focused on something else. This will help you relax and gain perspective too.

Also, if you’re not in isolation, try to get outside and connect with nature every day. Standing on the earth and focusing on your breath for five minutes will help you feel calmer

If being around people stresses you out, then don’t do that for a while. Spend time doing the self-care that you need to do for you.

 

I know you’re worrying about school finishing. You mind is saying you need to have all the answers about what comes next. Maybe some people in your life are telling you the same thing.

But your mind and those people are wrong. No one ever has it all worked out and we can’t control what happens in the future. All we can do is make the best decisions we can, with the knowledge we have at the time. It’s that simple.

Take the pressure off, show up and do your best, and let the future work itself out. You’ve got this.

Lots of love,

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How Can I Feel Happier?

How Can I Feel Happier?

How Can I Feel Happier?

Grade 12 is stressing me out

Dear Lucretia,

How can I feel more excited about my life? My world feels kind of empty. It’s my 18th birthday tomorrow and all I want to do is feel happier about it.

Maddie, 18 years old

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Dear Maddie,

I can remember blowing out the candles on my birthday cake and making a wish to be happy. I did this every year for quite a while until I realised something important.

I have the ability to choose my life and do what makes me happy.

 Until then, I had spent a long time trying to do the right thing and never feeling good enough. This didn’t work as a long-term happiness strategy. It never does.

Turning 18 is just the start of your adult life and it’s up to you to make it a life that counts.

Look for ways you can make a difference, help others and make the world a better place. Focus on your passions and if you don’t know what they are yet, go out and try lots of new things so you can work it out.

You have an important role to play in life and it’s up to you to work out what that is. Think of it as an adventure. You don’t know where the final destination but get ready to explore a lot of things along the way.

Stop waiting for someone to make you happy or give you all the answers. You need to do the journey to find out what your happiness looks like.

Happy birthday Maddie! Now your real adventure begins.

Lots of love,

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