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How Can I feel Normal?

How Can I feel Normal?

How Can I feel Normal?

Dear Lucretia How Can I Feel Normal

Dear Lucretia,

What do I do when both my mum and partner’s mum tell me I have borderline personality disorder? I feel so stuck and sad because of it. I just want to feel normal and I don’t know how to get there.

Emma, 17 years old

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Dear Emma, 
Borderline personality disorder needs to be diagnosed by a mental health professional. Has this happened or is your mum (and partner’s mum) making assumptions about what is going on for you? If they are just making assumptions, I would recommend you seek the support of a counsellor, psychologist or psychiatrist who can help you work out what is happening and give you professional support. This will be more useful than an average person’s opinion about what may be going on. Whether you have borderline personality disorder or not, they will be able to help you navigate your journey more easily. 

I’d also like you to focus on being “healthy” rather than “normal”. The truth is, everyone’s normal is different and that is perfect because we are all different. You need to work out what healthy looks like for you. 

For most of us, being healthy means finding a way to get some balance in our lives, valuing ourselves and the contributions we make to the world, and doing things we love. Explore ways you can incorporate these things into your life. 

Whatever happens, remember there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you – you just have some unique challenges and need to find some unique ways to address them. This is nothing to be ashamed of. A lot of people experience challenges with their mental health and family relationships so please know you are not alone. Make sure you reach out to people you can trust who are supportive of your journey and be honest with them about how you are feeling.

Lots of love

Lucretia’s guidance should be regarded as personal opinion only and does not constitute qualified, professional advice regarding psychological situations. If you require this type of advice, please seek the services of a professional in that field.

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How to Cope with Loneliness

How to Cope with Loneliness

How to Cope with Loneliness

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Dear Lucretia,

I often feel lonely. What can I do?

Clare, 17 years old

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Dear Clare,
We can all feel lonely sometimes. When these feelings come up, one of the best things you can do is reach out to a friend and say hi. Often, we don’t tell anyone that we feel lonely and we don’t realise there are lots of other people who feel exactly the same way. Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone you trust and tell them how you feel.

It might also be a good idea to expand your social circle. What are you interested in? Look for groups online or in-person where you can meet new people and do activities you enjoy. Don’t worry if it takes a little while for people to warm up and be friendly. Sometimes they will be shy and it will take time to get to know them. Be the brave one who initiates conversations and says hello first – most of the time they will be very grateful. And if they’re not, always remember that isn’t a reflection on you.

Most importantly, know there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfect the way you are. You just need to connect with more people who share your interests and reach out for support when you need it.

Lots of love,

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How Can I Fit In?

How Can I Fit In?

How Can I Fit In?

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Dear Lucretia,

I feel like an outcast and I don’t fit in. What can I do to change this?

Kate, 18 years old

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Dear Kate,
What makes you think you’re supposed to fit in? Some of the most interesting and courageous people I’ve met are the ones who have forged their own path and lived in alignment with what they believe is important. Forget about trying to conform and fit in. Choose to be your authentic and wonderful self instead.

What do you value most? What do you want to do with your life? What things do you want to change in the world? As you work this out, look for other people and groups who feel the same way and value the same things you do. They might live in your local area or maybe you will find them online. Trust me, they are out there. It might just take you a little while to find them.

I would prioritise getting to know, like and accept who you are. What other people think, doesn’t matter. If you don’t fit in with them, then they aren’t your ‘people’ and that’s okay. We aren’t all meant to be the same – that’s what makes us shine.

I would also suggest that it’s okay to let people see a bit more of who you are. If you meet someone and you think they might be a potential friend, talk a little more about what you love and what you enjoy doing. You never know, they might be shy and wanting desperately to connect with someone who “gets them” too.

Lots of love,

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