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Does Using Tinder Make Me a Slut?
Dear Lucretia, does using Tinder make me a slut?
Does he Like me?
Dear Lucretia, how can I tell if a boy likes me back?
Struggling with Overwhelm
Dear Lucretia, I feel sad, tired and overwhelmed most of the time. It’s been going on for about a year and I just can’t seem to change things. What can I do?
How Can I feel Happier?
Dear Lucretia, how can I feel happier about myself and what’s coming? I’ve been depressed for such a long time and I don’t look forward to anything anymore. I don’t know what to do.
How to Recover when you Screw Up
Dear Lucretia, this week I made a mistake at work and got into a bit of trouble because of it. Now I’m worried that my colleagues don’t like me and talk badly about me behind my back. I started getting anxiety attacks when going to work in the mornings, partly because I’m afraid to make mistakes again. What can I do to feel more comfortable?
How Can I feel Normal?
Dear Lucretia, What do I do when both my mum and partner’s mum tell me I have borderline personality disorder? I feel so stuck and sad because of it. I just want to feel normal and I don’t know how to get there.
Dealing with Frenemies
Dear Lucretia, my friend has changed a lot lately. She barely even speaks to me and my other friends and when we try to talk to her she just ignores us and continues talking to her new friend. I am having a gathering and she told us she didn’t want to come and she would rather hang with her new friend. But when I told her that a boy she was crushing over was coming she decided to come. The other day I noticed something was off as she blew me off for no reason. It turns out she was telling all my other friends that our friendship was toxic and started to cry. I don’t know whether I want to mend our friendship, but I know that all my other friends will turn on me, and I don’t want to lose them. Thanks for helping me.
How do I Become More Self-Loving and Confident?
Dear Lucretia, how do I become more self-loving and confident? It’s dragging me down so much and I don’t feel good enough for anyone. I’ve tried so many things but my motivation always gets overpowered and nothing changes.
Can Men and Women Just Be Friends?
Dear Lucretia, I find it difficult to be friends with males. There’s always some awkwardness because either one could develop feelings for the other. This leads to one party getting disappointed.
I don’t have many guy friends and I would really like to try but how do I be friends with men when it seems to always lead to sex?
He Slept With Her But Says He Wants Me
Dear Lucretia, How do I know if a boy really likes me? He told me he did at a house party then slept with someone else.
Now he’s saying it was a mistake and will never happen again.
My Boyfriend Chooses Porn Over Me
Dear Lucretia, my boyfriend would rather watch porn than have sex with me. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he says it’s normal and I should just get over it. But it’s really affecting my confidence.
Is it normal or am I just not sexy or pretty enough?
Worried About my Mum
Dear Lucretia, I’ve had a boyfriend now for about two months and have stopped spending all my free time with my Mum. I feel really guilty about it.
I keep thinking that she might be at home all by herself while I’m out having a good time. I have been at home with her for most of my life as I don’t have many friends and now, all of a sudden, I spend a lot of my time away from her. How can I make myself feel less guilty?
How Can I Value Myself More?
Dear Lucretia, How can I value myself more?
Over the past five years, I’ve overcome a lot of personal obstacles and worked hard on my mental health but I still don’t see the worth and value others see in me. I don’t see myself as someone to be proud of. How can I feel better about who I am and be happy?
How do I Stop Myself from Repeating the Past?
Dear Lucretia, How do I cope with relapse? I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in 2018, and went on 4 different medications until I found the right one. For about a year I have been doing so great. But, recently, I have felt myself using my old thinking patterns and behaviours. I can’t help thinking that I’m going back to how I was. Tears, hospital trips, breakdowns, sleepless nights. I don’t want that again. How do I change this? If it does happen, how do I cope? Thank you so much.
Grade 12 is Stressing Me Out!
Dear Lucretia,I’ve been struggling a lot with stress lately – mostly with school and what to do when I finish (I’m currently in grade 12). It has felt overwhelming. How do I cope with this?
I’ve also been struggling with trying to stay calm while socialising. I get all nervous and start to shake and feel unwell. Is there any way I can stop this from happening?
Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Taken!
Dear Lucretia, I often feel like people don’t want to be around me and I try to change myself so I can fit in. But it never feels good. What can I do?
How Can I Feel Happier?
Dear Lucretia, how can I feel more excited about my life? My world feels kind of empty. It’s my 18th birthday tomorrow and all I want to do is feel happier about it.
Does She Still Want to be my Girlfriend?
My girlfriend doesn’t show me any affection. She used to cuddle and kiss me all the time but I really don’t think she wants to anymore. My biggest fear is that she’s falling out of love with me and I don’t know how to handle it. I’ve tried to talk to her but she gets weird and doesn’t want to talk about it. I feel so ugly and unlovable.
Meet Lucretia
Over the years, I’ve been honoured to provide guidance to many young women about everything from love, intuition and living their purpose through to speaking their truth, managing anxiety and creating the life of their dreams. I am passionately committed to helping women value themselves and go for what they really want.
